Do You Have A Commitment To Always Be Better? | Susan Lazar Hart

Do You Have A Commitment To Always Be Better?


Do You Have A Commitment To Always Be Better?

Mon. 12 Oct 2020  |  Ask Susan  |  Nurturing You

Do you have a commitment to always be better?

How many of us have been told:

  • don’t rush into anything;
  • wait for a sign;
  • check out what your competition is doing;
  • practice makes perfect.

It’s so tempting to decide we need to perfect ourselves before we commit to a journey.

I’ve done it myself, many times.
When I was 21, I was invited to create a weekly television show for children teaching them art. The interview went well and all that was required of me was to send the producer a write-up of what I thought was possible and what that would require.
I never sent in the document. I had decided I wasn’t a good enough writer.
It never occurred to me that who I was and how I represented my ideas were more than enough. I had the job.
And yet the truth was I had committed myself to never being enough, to always having to be better.

Over the years I’ve learned that judging myself as “not enough ‘til I get better” simply puts my dreams and desires on hold.

And the only thing that holds you back is what you’ve decided you can’t do.
Kind of like a vicious circle of polarity,
Perfection vs imperfection.
So what if there was no such thing as a better you? What if it was just you creating with you in a more nurturing, joy-filled way?
Who would you be?
How would you be creating your life?

Over the years I’ve learned that what’s important for me is to listen to the whispers of possibilities, commit to one at a time, and take one step in the direction of where my heart is telling me to go.

When I find myself in resistance, I check in and honor my awareness by acknowledging the life I am creating.
And ask myself these two questions:

If I chose this what will this create?
Since I am choosing this, what is it creating for me now?

And then I commit to moving forward, one step at a time.
No matter how uncomfortable it gets,
I always receive the clarity I’m asking for.

So what about you?
Does it ever feel like you’ve put your brilliance on hold because you decided you’re not enough?

Watch this related Ask Susan episode that examines is your commitment to being better holding you back?  We discuss this question and more in this episode of Ask Susan where we talk about if you’re asking for change, for different, for more of you to show up – how committed are you to that or are you committed to what doesn’t work?

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