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Internalizing Everything – Is This You?

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Internalizing Everything – Is This You?

Thu. 30 Jan 2020  |  Ask Susan  |  Nurturing You

This week on Ask Susan, I asked:
What’s your hot question this week?
And this is what popped:
3 questions actually, relating to the same topic…

Hi Susan,
How do we not internalize everything?
How do we learn to accept when we do that and don’t project it on others?

Can you relate?
I put up a poll and it appears that many of you said ‘yes’,
I’d like to play with these questions for a minute…
Are you in?

First, I’m going to divide these concepts into three groups.
Second, I’m going to give you a few tools to play with.
Lets start with a WHAT IF and go to a HOW,
Ready?

How do we not internalize everything?

WHAT IF you stopped taking other people’s behavior personally?
The truth is, the way other people behave and function are not about you. It’s about them, their lives, their projections.

HOW to change internalizing everything?
WE have an amazing capacity to pick up what’s going on in someone else’s world and it “feels” so real that we buy that we have to be involved.
If this rings true for you,

Ask these questions:

Is this mine, someone else’s or something else’s?
Is internalizing this as a problem I have to solve, creating the future I would like to have?

How do I learn to accept when I do that?

WHAT IF there was nothing to accept, who would you be, what could you be creating?
Not buying other people’s drama and trauma doesn’t make you unlovable or unworthy. It actually gives you the space to be in allowance and step into your awareness and ask:

HOW do I change this?
Be in the question. Be curious:
What else is possible for me now?

How do I not project it on others?

By being in the question, you can learn to challenge those false beliefs, strip away their power, and reclaim what brings you joy. It won’t be easy, and it won’t transpire overnight. And it is possible.
The habit of not projecting it on others begins as you learn that there is a better way to live, to be in the world and that you have all those capacities to discover within you, right now.

HOW?
Live with the intention of uncovering you:
What if none of this was real or true, who could I be?

Watch this related Ask Susan episode that asks What’s the value of me internalizing everything? Why would I do that?  We explore these questions and more in this episode of Ask Susan where we look at 8 signs you are internalizing stress and what to do about it.

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