Have you ever thought about what you’re listening for when you ask a question?
Are you looking for:
* foreseeable consequences;
* someone to agree with you;
* a backup plan;
* that you are right;
* that you are wrong;
* something else?
How many of us ask a question expecting the answer we want, or better yet…
Have you already decided what you need to hear?
I love this question that came in on Ask Susan this week:
How do I know when I ask a question with some conclusion/ the wanted answer in it?
I would ask you:
What are you listening for?
If you are listening for someone to agree with the answer or conclusion that you are looking for – that is not a question. That’s a resource for validation.
A true question empowers both the listener and the one who is asking.
Asking a question invites in endless possibilities providing chose for both yourself and any listeners.
Doesn’t feel light?
Ask a different question, play with a different possibility.
A true question expands your awareness of what you are asking for and the choices that have been created
My next question for you would be:
Are you asking with an open heart?
When you ask a question with an open heart there is no judgment, no expectation, no projection…
There is you, your curiosity and a future filled with possibilities.
Watch this related Ask Susan episode that asks When you ask a question, is it with an answer in mind? If so, is it really a asking a question, or is it looking for validation? We explore these questions and more in this episode of Ask Susan where we talk about how things change when you are asking a question with an open heart and a true sense of curiosity, being limitless in the question.