What does Being Present mean to you?
“Despite all consequences, there is an inevitable honoring of what is true, and at this deep level of inner voice, it is not a summoning of will, but a following of true knowing.”
-Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening
For me, that’s what it means to be present. Stepping into what I know to be true for me and honoring that in everything I do and say.
It takes courage to be your own advocate of what is true for you, to be totally present with you.
I recently had a conversation with a client introducing her to the concept of self-advocacy.
She was feeling disappointed for the last few weeks.
Not only had she not received the job promotion she expected, her workload had increased.
“Why not talk to your superior?” I asked. However, it turns out he amused himself by bullying her.
As a result, we talked about learning to advocate for yourself in a way that creates greater.
Here’s the interesting thing most of us miss:
People treat you the way you allow them to.
Therefore, I introduced her to this simple tool:
Get very present within yourself; Tap in, and practice saying:
This doesn’t work for me.
Most of us have never been encouraged to simply say, without judgement or expectation, what works for us and what does not work for us.
I had her write This doesn’t work for me on a sticky note and post it around her house to remind her to be present of what she knew to be true for her and how she would like to be treated.
And practice she did.
As a result, the next time she went into a meeting with her ”boss” and he came out with a wisecrack, she simply said “You know Mr. X, that actually doesn’t work for me. I prefer to be talked to with respect.”
He got very quiet, skipped a beat and moved the meeting along.
Self-advocacy and being present works every time!
If reading these tools and tips stirs up a need for more Susan, reach out to me. Let’s book in an exploratory call.
I wonder what we can create to change what isn’t working into something far greater.
Live boldly, love greatly, and be that fearless leader that you came here to be because the world needs more of you and that special sauce that only you have.
Here’s to your joy filled, empowered life!